When you are not sure what to do, when you hesitate, you are also making a choice. How to act, but also not acting, is always a choice. It is possible that you move from one doubt to another. But doubt is always followed by certainty. Recently, a friend wrote to me: If in doubt, do not overtakeA body of thought from psychology.
External factors determine the doubt
If you think about it more deeply, it indicates that when in doubt, you often look to your external environment. If in doubt, do not overtake.Your external environment therefore determines the 'reliability', or rather, the doubt on which you base your choices. If there is certainty, those external circumstances matter less, or not at all. Then you can catch up and quickly forget the entire situation. But when you keep worrying about those external circumstances, about what lies beyond your control, you will not get out of it easily.
What offers you security?
Certainty is an internal matter, doubt an external one. When in doubt, what does that external world look like? Which situations or people make you doubt? But perhaps even more importantly, why do you let external circumstances determine your state of mind? What is needed to make you look inward again, When was the last time you encountered yourself? To search again for that which can offer you certainty. To close your eyes to your external world and go within.
Dependence makes you doubt
Does the truth actually exist? Or is there merely an external illusion within which you can move, causing you doubt and other emotions? The only certainty lies hidden within your 'self'; that is where your truth is to be found. However, most people are swallowed up by the external world, by the illusion maintained by others. No one can bring you true happiness, no one will love you unconditionally, no one is always there for you. This is because it is external factors that make you dependent. You are happiness, you are love, you are the only one who can be there for yourself by looking at yourself honestly and openly.
Accepting yourself for who you really are
You are the only one who can provide yourself with certainty in life. But fear not, from that loneliness follows healing. From loneliness, unity arises naturally when we once again know and acknowledge who we are, what we are. Love is a power that can only be found within ourselves, and when you act from that true love again, nothing is powerful enough to make you doubt. Do not overtake when in doubt; therefore, find the strength to move forward in your life with certainty. For are you champing at the bit impatiently, then nothing is stopping you from taking that leap and being yourself.
(written on December 12, 2013)