What someone else thinks or does does not matter.
Many people are afraid of death and, as a result, often afraid of life itself. They let life pass by blindly, hoping that a miracle will happen someday. That everything will get better. But how? They fail to realize that they themselves are the architects of their lives. That they themselves possess all the potential to create a life that makes them happy.
Many people weigh their lives against those of their parents, their loved ones, and their community. Generally, they do not want change. They would rather keep things the way they are than make changes and thereby introduce more love, happiness, and joy into their lives. Life is allowed to feel good! It is allowed to have an abundance of joy. Why settle for anything less than joy?
Life revolves around you
Isn't it strange that we make ourselves victims of our own illusions? Start by disagreeing. Distance yourself from the other person's way of thinking and start looking at yourself. What do you want to achieve in life? What do you want to experience, because life is all about you. How do you think you can be of service to others if you cannot do so from your own core? Truly act from within yourself and experience joy in doing so without it coming at the expense of who you are.
Do not live someone else's life
Why give your last cent if doing so makes you needy yourself? Sharing is different from simply giving everything away. All matter is finite. Therefore, share in your help, in your attention, in your love, and in your company. Be together so that being alone is no longer a fear, but a prayer to speak to yourself. Be in unity with who you truly are. Not distance, but rather closeness. Life is to be lived, to be experienced; not to relive what the other person inflicts upon you.
Be grateful
Leave all that is old as it is, and create the new with complete surrender. Dare to be different, dare to change. In doing so, do not look at the other person, but live your life. Do not show the other person your path, but merely demonstrate that the other person, too, can follow their own unique path. So that at the end of your life, you can say that you have lived. Not because of the familiar, but for the sake of everything you did not know but have come to know. Through experience, living, and gratitude.
Written on November 13, 2013